Sex and intimacy
Intimacy and sexuality can sometimes be affected by multiple sclerosis. Sexual activity and relationships can be affected by a variety of symptoms. It can be helpful to talk about sex and intimacy with your health professional, allowing you to realise you are not alone in feeling this way, and that often simple changes can make a difference.
We appreciate it may feel difficult to talk about sexual issues you may be experiencing. Please be reassured if you would like to talk, we have clinics that are private and confidential.
Below are some typical symptoms that people with MS may experience.
Women
- Loss of desire
- Vaginal dryness
- Numbness/altered sensation
- Difficulty orgasming
The most important thing is to talk about your challenges. Some people find this embarrassing, but support is there for you. We may suggest techniques to reintroduce intimacy, using lubricating gels or experimenting with sex toys such as vibrators. The MS Trust booklets for men and women outline various techniques to create a desire, such as body mapping or other games.
https://mstrust.org.uk/a-z/sexual-problems-women-ms
Men
- Loss of desire
- Erectile dysfunction
- Numbness/altered sensation
- Inability to orgasm or ejaculate
Talking about your challenges is important. The MS team are used to discussing sex with people with MS. We may suggest body mapping, gels, vibrators, or medication. We may also refer you to different services to discuss vacuum pumps, injections, or psychosexual therapy.
https://mstrust.org.uk/a-z/sexual-problems-men-ms
Talking to health professionals
Speaking with a healthcare professional about sex and intimacy issues can be beneficial and improve your self-esteem.Think about what you want to say and the words you feel comfortable using before your appointment with the MS team. Using words you are more comfortable with can help you to feel more relaxed.
Other resources
Videos:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0oV-o2h1lEE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUs0v5iZEbI
Further information:
MS, sex and relationships | Shift.ms
